Thursday, May 21, 2009

Back from vacation and then everything went nuts

OK so I came back from my vacation after having a great time with my daughter in the Caribbean (pictures and details in an upcoming post) and what do I find in the mail when I get home? A summons to court! My ex is (unsuccessfully) trying to get custody of our daughter, in hopes of using her Social Security Disability income to pay off his debts (he hasn't been working since November and from what I hear is about to get evicted from his apartment). Now this is the same guy whose psycho nutcase girlfriend has been filing false abuse claims against me for the last 10 years, actually she just did it again a couple of months ago. After our most recent court date last week the court actually filed an abuse and neglect report against him, from what it looks like his best friend is a pervert who may have actually molested my daughter. :-( The social worker from the Department of Children and Families who interviewed her told me there may be enough evidence to have him criminally charged, and I agreed to have the case turned over to the District Attorney's office for review.

My ex actually used to be a nice guy, not the sharpest knife in the drawer but not mean or anything like that--ever since he started hanging around with the local town loonies he's changed, it's like he's a puppet and they're pulling the strings. It's cruel what they've made him put his kids through, and the rest of his family and mine as well. There are a lot of people whose trust he's betrayed or he's otherwise hurt somehow, and it will take a long time, if ever, to heal those relationships. Hopefully all this legal stuff going on will make him realize that he needs to get away from these people who are trying to destroy his life and are ruining his relationships with everyone who's supposed to care about him. In a way I'm mad at him for doing all this but on the other hand I feel like he's as much a victim here as the rest of us, the real perpetrators are his girlfriend and their other friend. With friends like that who needs enemies, huh?

I haven't been doing any crocheting for my Etsy shop lately either, just too distracted with this other stuff going on I guess. I'm starting to feel like I'm not sure if I should bother continuing with it, I've only had a couple sales from it the entire time it's been open. Maybe I need to rethink what I want to sell, recently I got the book Drawing for Dummies and I'm working on the exercises in that, maybe if I can get good enough I'll add an Art section to my shop. I've been thinking for a while about trying beading and pottery too, but haven't found any local classes to join yet. We've only been back from our vacation about three weeks and I already want to go away again! Need to get away from the stress, you know? Maybe the kids and I can go away for a weekend after they get out of school or something, I'm not sure what we'll do yet.


Emily said...

As you know, I feel your pain aboput the court thing. Take some time with your kids and enjoy some peace and quiet! Good luck!


Nancy said...

Hang in there, it will get better. My sister is going through a terrible divorce and I know it affects the whole family especially the kids. These are trying times as it is, but when you add these things into the mix it sure ain't easy. Good luck to you!